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  • Five Tips to Take You Beyond Grief – Dianne Graham Koru Colours


    Have you woken tired again this morning? Are you down in the dumps because another day has arrived and nothing has changed? Are you still resenting having to do for others, no time for yourself and on top of all that you’re feeling guilty for feeling this way? These are common symptoms of someone living with grief and distress.

    Here are five top tips to help you move from here and on to there, the other side of trauma.

    1.Accept Change

    It’s happened, there is no turning back. All the wishing in the world won’t make things the same as it was before. You cannot turn the clock back. This is the way it is now. If that raw honesty hurts then go ahead and feel that hurt. Admit it and experience it. It’s real. Accepting change is without doubt the biggest step toward recovery from shock and trauma.

    2.Feel Your Emotions

    Go on, scream!! Be honest. Feel how angry you are, feel where that anger is living within you. Feel that resentment. Resentment is a very common and overwhelming sensation if you’ve suffered a recent loss. Resenting lost years, lost youth or lost ‘me time’. Feel the confusion or the guilt. They’re real. Don’t try to push them down deeper any longer. Face the feelings head on. I found it helpful to focus on each emotion, give it a name, feel where it lives in me and then try drawing it on paper. Tell them you’ve had enough!!

    3.Get Support

    Talk to someone. A good friend, a family member, even better someone who’s been through exactly what you’re experiencing and really understands it. Talk, cry, yell, scream, and punch some cushions. The old saying ‘A problem shared is a problem halved’ really is true. Share the load. You’ll be pleased you did.

    4.Take Time For Yourself

    How often have you found yourself thinking you’d like to go for that walk, have that massage, meet a friend for coffee? You’ve worked hard, put in all that effort,

    Well, now is the time to do it. Make the time somehow. You’re worth it and you deserve it.

    5.Reclaim Your Life

    Finding you again after distress or grief can be the hardest thing to do. Stand tall and say aloud ‘OK, now it’s time for ME.’ Take that first step and do something that will nurture you.

    Colour and Light Therapy is a safe, drug-free way to restore balance and harmony when you’ve been living with depression, loss of identity, fear, insomnia, lack of creativity, anger and many other symptoms of grief.

    Dianne Graham rom Koru Colours is a Colour and Light Therapist at the Coastal Wellbeing Centre. She specializes in helping you to move on when you’ve had enough of the grieving, whether it’s been caused through a natural disaster or the loss of a loved one, possessions, identity, marriage, home town or occupation.

    Dianne Graham Koru Colours